From a book that I’m reading, “Setting the Table” by Danny Meyer:

It may seem implicit in the philosophy of enlightened hospitality that the employee is constantly setting aside personal needs and selflessly taking care of others.  But the real secret of its success is to hire people to whom caring for others is, in fact, a selfish act.  I call these people hospitalitarians.  A special type of personality thrives on providing hospitality, and it’s crucial to our success that we attract people who possess it.  Their source of energy is rarely depleted.  In fact, the more opportunities hospitalitarians have to care for other people, the better they feel.

I was attempting to explain, or rather articulate, this point to a friend just last week and I think that Meyer (or his ghost-writer) put it so eloquently that I had to share it.  I was having quite a in-depth conversation with a very good friend about life and changes in direction, etc.  He was telling me that I needed to make sure that I was choosing a path for myself and not for someone else.  At the time I couldn’t quite articulate that as a ‘hospitalitarian’ it is not easy to make a choice for myself or to even act selfishly.  That is not to say that hospitalitarians cannot act selfishly, I’m sure that we can, but that it is much harder for us to make a decision that only affects ourselves.  Boiling it down, it is much easier for people like us to act on a decision when we know that it will benefit others more than ourselves.  We thrive on serving others and doing so does bring us joy and energy and often times that is just the motivation that we need to do something for ourselves.